Thursday, 9 June 2011

Why and How we came to choose Dr Shivani

I was actually researching same sex parents for a uni essay when I stumbled across a wonderful website, Gay Dads Australia, then who knows how I found blogs about US surrogacy and Indian Surrogacy. I thought we could possibly afford US surrogacy if we took out a mortgage, maybe moved to a cheaper home. I then thought that would put a lot of financial strain on our family, especially as we had just lost most of our belongings when our home was flooded early this year!
Here we were (and still are for another month) living in rental accommodation with no furniture or beds of our own, just a laptop and some clothes and I was thinking about putting ourselves in financial poop to have another child.
To cut a long story short my research for my essay became a research into international surrogacy. I came across many blogs about Indian surrogacy, one blog in particular stood out, Chai Baby. CC went into so much detail and researched all the clinics and came up with Dr Shivani. I liked CC's reasons and how concerned she was for the care of surrogate mothers, Drs qualifications etc.. I then found many other blogs of IPs who had been successful with Dr Shivani and I checked for any complaints, problems etc and I found out that Dr Shivani was a very qualified and reputable Doctor.
 I asked my  Lecturer at uni what his thoughts were on surrogacy in India as he is Indian, very well educated, constantly travels back and forwards to India and has lots of family and friends still living in India. I was expecting him to be against surrogacy as he was a very opinionated as a teacher. I was surprised when he thought it was fine and I asked, do you think the SMs are forced into it by family members for money? He said, no! He saw nothing wrong with it, its a business transaction. He said many women in India are just as feminist as women in Australia! He said why give the money to America when India needs it more.
Upon telling my mum about all this, I still felt worried about if this is the right thing to do, are the surrogates happy and well cared for etc.. Strangely enough my mum knew of a young Indian Lawyer who bought some real estate from her. I sent through all the information and she forwarded it to him, he sent this on to his father who is a lawyer in Delhi, called a senior Gyny friend and came back with the news that although surrogacy is fairly new in India, it is safe to do so from an Indian point of view, Dr Shivani was again spoken of highly and the word was the surrogates were very well cared for! My mums friend said his family live not far from Delhi and if we needed anything, food, accommodation, legal advice then we were to call anytime. This made MB and  I feel much more reassured! So there you go. Thats the story, and the short version!

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