We have a single heartbeat of 114, with a measurement of 6 weeks one day. All looking good at this stage. Sometimes I wish we didn't find out so early.
I have had a couple of comments from the outside world with concerns that my blogs have been a bit too personal. Blogging may not be for everyone and I don't even have facebook for that reason, BUT this blog is suppose to offer support to other IPs to help "normalise" the feelings and events that occur during surrogacy. There are many things in my life I don't share, but with very few people in the outside world going through surrogacy it helps to read others blogs and to know there are other people out there grappling with the same issues.
If anyone finds it uncomfortable reading my blogs, remember you don't have to read them and I have only told people who I thought were close and wanted updates.
So excited for Bernadette and Temmy.......it's not long to wait now!!!
I have had a couple of comments from the outside world with concerns that my blogs have been a bit too personal. Blogging may not be for everyone and I don't even have facebook for that reason, BUT this blog is suppose to offer support to other IPs to help "normalise" the feelings and events that occur during surrogacy. There are many things in my life I don't share, but with very few people in the outside world going through surrogacy it helps to read others blogs and to know there are other people out there grappling with the same issues.
If anyone finds it uncomfortable reading my blogs, remember you don't have to read them and I have only told people who I thought were close and wanted updates.
So excited for Bernadette and Temmy.......it's not long to wait now!!!
Lucylu, I Love your blog and all of your updates so keep posting them. So glad to hear that all is going well.
ReplyDeleteSo happy for you Lucylu. Dont worry about what people say about being too personal. This blog forum is as you say precisely for support and to help us all "normalise" where we can, what we are going through and feeling. All the best
ReplyDeleteYour posts definitely help others who are going through the same thing or thinking about going through it. I don't think I would be considering surrogacy if it hadn't been for reading all these wonderful blogs. So thank you. :) AND CONGRATS!!!! All our best wishes going to you. Zee.
ReplyDeleteBec, all sounds good and you are going to be a yummy mummy!!!!!!lets keep being positive and pray. All will be well. I have noticed this too as well about some people who are not being good and i know its because they dont feel what we feel so because of that i have made my blog unsearchable to nosey nigerians. ha ha ha .they can be so mean and do not get this journey. The chic of them!i can only say what does not break you can only make you stronger and at this point in time, i owe no one any apologies for doing this.So sick of trying to please 'people'The only regret i have is not knowing about this early enough and wasting my money on other treatmemts that only butchered my body.Yeah, i have had nasty emails, so i have removed my email from my blog but then when am losing my sanity, our blogs keep me going. ignore the nonentities hun.they are so not worth the trouble
ReplyDeleteDear Bec, First and foremost I am so thrilled to hear the news of your very solid heartbeat! I have been thinking of you often and I am wishing so hard that this is the very special child you were meant to parent. Second, while some may not "get it," your blog is so instrumental in raising awareness of a family building option that many are unaware of. "WE" all understand the highs and the lows of the journey and find you very brave to write about both-- particularly the lows. Keep on writing-- this is going to serve as one darn good bedtime story someday for one very special child! xoxoxo
ReplyDeleteI think blogging lets us all support each other, so keep at it!! Congrats on a great heart beat at 6 weeks!!
ReplyDeleteYour blog is your blog - for you to share about your experiences. For some of us blog is a major outlet. More people on this blog community know more about our fertility issues then most of our families. Glad to hear that things are going well with scan. Best wishes!!! K
ReplyDeleteDear Bec congrats on the heartbeat wonderful news. As others have already stated these blogs are fundamentally important in helping yourself and others through this incredible journey which can be very difficult at times. Keep going as you said people don't have to read if they do not want to.
ReplyDeleteContinue the blogs...but, possibly consider making it private..the only problem with that is that it keeps potential intended parents in the dark about surrogacy...I sometimes wish only those in the surrogacy world knew about my blog...i didn't realize people were giving out my blog address to anyone and everyone...it made me feel a little violated....i wanted it to be for people in the surrogacy community as a means of information...not so that I could be the source of gossip or a freak show....people freak out about surrogacy in general or about egg donors and traveling to india for self cycle ivf...those are people with 2 to 4 children that are driving them crazy and that they can't afford to begin with...those people judge you and act like you're crazy...i decided to keep my blog public for one reason only..and that's for people like us with broken hearts and disappointments over and over again that have to depend on strangers in another country to make our family complete..no, its not fair, but it's our life...and I intend to live mine as I please...and not how society dictates or how those that got knocked up in the backseat of a car at age 15 dictate....so, yes, keeping our blogs public are important...others need us as much as we need them...Bec-congrats on the heartbeat...miss you bunches...wish you could go back to india with me for a "holiday", lol!!
ReplyDeleteYour little bean is at 6 weeks!!Great news!!Very happy for you!!And for those that find your blog too personal,WHAT?!!Blogs are meant to be personal and are out there to share with others who are looking to gain information,insight, understanding or support from others while maintaining anonimity. So,you just keep on blogging my friend,because there are many of us who want to read it and go right along the journey beside you...
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Congrats on the 6 weeks.
ReplyDeleteI'm not too sure as why you consider to justify anything that you write about? - this is your experience, thoughts & feelings only. I for one, truely value the honesty that you have provided and encourage you to keep at it.
For those who can't handle it - I wonder what their motives are?, for if they were going through what we're going through surely they too would need an outlet - without judgement?.
Congratulations on your six week scan and heartbeat, we're only just ahead of you waiting for our 8 week scan sometime this week. All going well we may see you in Dehli at the end of the dreaded 8-9 month wait. Best of luck for the rest of your uneventful pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your scan and the heartbeat i am really pleased for you.... we are all on the same road with different feelings, emotions and stories but all wanting the same thing a baby!! keep blogging i will keep reading!!
ReplyDeletebest wishes
lisa x
Congratulations on the great heartbeat! If it weren't for the blogland i don't know if Lee and i would have decided to do surrogacy in Delhi...keep blogging and ignore those who say you are sharing too much!
ReplyDeleteGreat News and Update !!
ReplyDeleteI also started my blog to help other IPs- and I have been told it has helped out and also given people the strength to begin or carry-on their personal journeys:) I did only share it with friends and family once the girls were born, as I wanted to be more candid with my blogland family than others at that time.
Best wishes for more and more good news, SJ & B xx
Dear Bec! I am so exited for you , I have my fingers crossed... this time will work. I truly believe that is great that you share in such a personal way because it shows to everybody that surrogacy is not all silver clouds . I think your writting is very honest and heartfelt so please do not stop.
ReplyDeleteHope everyhtign goes ok!
Blessings!!!
xoxo Enzo
Congratulations on your healthy heartbeat !
ReplyDeleteIt is always a surprise when people talk of 'too personal' or take some offence but often keep on watching/reading/listening. It is our nature as humans that our hearts want to connect but our heads say - keep a distance. We listen to both but the heart connection makes the most impact so more than likely those folk will continue to read - secretly.
This is your blog, your space (online or not) - we invite ourselves into your space and appreciate everything you share.
I think 9 months, for those going thru this process, is MUCH longer than for those who haven't dealt with infertility. It's at every milestone, every benchmark, every email that we agonize over what is to be and what we could lose. I'm still hoping to get into the "Mommy" club, but I can only imagine how nerve-wracking this must be right now. Hang in there! Best wishes to you!
ReplyDeleteKeep the blog as is, I like reading it too. Keep the faith, special one is cooking and on its way!!!
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ReplyDeleteWhatever you want to say on this blog say it we are here for you. For the ones that say your to personal block them deleat them there is no reason to ever talk to them. you are so right that this blog is for our support, I need support you need support all of us "IPS" need this support so get it off your chest, I am a ear and I am sure everyone else is. I start my journey soon and I can wait, as you have read in my blog. Keep smiling and ill keep praying for you and I will always be here for you.
Michael